Handling love

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...

IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN,
IT WILL COME AGAIN!

(a card form 231greetings.com)

From a distance

Few days back I was reminded of what really matters in my life and spent quite a while thanking god for the considerably long list of things that i am grateful for (c me good right!!! hah) . I had lived many years, and lived well I hope. Had lots of friends, hopefully had made a difference in many other lives as well (like they had been instrumental in mine).

Thankfully I have had the pleasure of having some pretty good and consistent friends in my life. A couple of them I had been friends for nearly twelve years and we have easily got to the point that we feel no hesitation in calling each other twice or thrice or even more depending on our moods. Most of these life long friends had been collected and treasured over a life time.

However, one should not always claim to have met the best of people in life. I had met and grew up and grew out of a lot of odd flakes and disloyal people but every time I come across such a character I always feel extreme pleasure in knowing that in my life there are people who I can bother at three in the morning, just because I have a heartache. I am lucky to have a small circle of close friends have been through a lot of "friend stuff” with me and are still tight.

Luckily, the hype I made for myself in college didn't let me down either when i was studying and I developed some great friends throughout my time there. Lots of surprises in that people who I never thought I'd be friends with are now among the closest of buddies. Sadly, I did move again and left all of those friends behind. However, I still feel a connection with them despite the distance. We still call each other every now and then to catch up. It's very difficult to keep in touch when you're so far away, we email and play phone tag, but it's always "I love you and I miss you, Always know that I'm here" and that's just a wonderful source of warm & fuzzy when you need it. We still bond after all these years. therefore the lesson learnt here is that Friends can live far away or right next door, can have radically different backgrounds, can argue and make up, and can stay best friends forever - if they know how to keep a friendship alive. Friendships also have different depths; some are closer to the heart, some more superficial-but they're all useful and good.

I discovered that having good friends is especially helpful when I am going through any kind of hard time (like last week, and one often discovers who ones friends are and who should not be included in this list in moments like this): experiencing anxiety, depression, delusional thinking; living having a loss in your life (like going through a particularly tough breakup); or just being under a lot of stress. At times like these, good friends and supporters can make all the difference.

When you are with good friends you feel good about yourself, and you are glad to be with them. A friend who respects and trust you and the feelings are mutual. A person who understands and accepts us as who we are and leaves us space to change and grow.
A man in a focus group said, "Friendship is a continuing source of bonding, releasing, and creating in yourself and with the other person. There is an emotional bond." And this evening i felt particularly glad that i have the set of frirnds that i have...

Life is short!



lets hold on tight!!!